What to do with the Sonepran analysis result?

Certainly it is interesting and nice to get a description of what one looks like on one’s social network profile. And it’s also nice to share it. However, the analysis result is not an end by itself:

Let’s keep in mind that the result of this specific type of Sonepran analysis is superficial, so this fact turns it just into the tip of the iceberg.

Once the analysis result is ready, each person can read it and share it with their friends. Then each person, before their description, should go to the next level of analysis, which is private:

They should take the description and compare it against  what they are being in real life. They should openly and unafraid ask themselves questions like:

“Am I being like that?” or “Am I like that?”

“Why am I posting this type of contents?”

“What am I trying to say through these type of messages?”

“What is influencing me to post contents of that type?”, “Is it really my own genuine desire?”

“Am I trying to look like someone or something else?” “If yes, Why?”

“Am I trying to impress someone?”

 

The questions given above are just examples, however, the person can question themselves along those lines. They can compare the Virtual Projected Image against the way they are in real life out there. The idea is to make an effort to become assertive to show what we are being really like.

But this does not mean that whatever we may be in real life is Ok. A person may be projecting in the Virtual environment of Social Networks what they are really like in real life too, that is, they are being assertive regarding their real and virtual image projection. However, in real life they may also have a lack of authenticity. So, the analysis does not stop here. It is not enough to be assertive. The road to wisdom should take us to deeper layers:

If one realises one is being (or seeming to be) a way which is not good (regarding authenticity) both in real and virtual environments, then one must focus to take actions to change. That is, this takes us to the level of what we should be.

This, then, makes another question rise: What is what we should be like?

We must be authentic. But what does it mean being authentic?

Authentic is not doing original things, things that other people do not do. Authentic means having so much understanding on what triggers human behaviour that we stop going, as Lou Benson (1974) said, Others-Directed and start going Self-Directed.

Also, regardless of cultural background or specific beliefs and the specific ways we may be, and our likes, there are some features that we all must have (features which are universal in the light of authenticity). For example, we all must be allocentric, conscientious, profound, confident, etc. Other examples on the way we should be, regardless of our specific peculiarities are:

People who are equally concerned about themselves, other human beings and the environment.

People who do not expect other people to give them attention and affection based on body shapes, looks, material possessions, etc.

People who not only point out social problems out there but also propose solutions.

Any topic is discussed objectively, seeing it from multiple angles, not playing the superior and smarter than others.

 

As it can be seen based on the points explained above, getting a superficial analysis, which may be or not that accurate on our virtual image, is an excellent starting point to start questioning the image we project on our selves. This is a wonderful and powerful exercise of questioning that leads one to deep self-knowledge.